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01 September 2011

Love You More

"When you become the parents of a child of another race, you become a conspicuous family," a social worker said when my husband and I began the adoption process. "Are you ready for that?" I said I was but it still throws me that seeing my family can have the effect of causing perfectly well-mannered people to turn off their filters and use their "outside voices" to express whatever thoughts pop into their heads."

Such begins the story of international adoption for author Jennifer Grant in Love You More. Love You More documents the journey from hearing the whisper of God prompting the author to consider adoption, through the seemingly endless application, paperwork and red-tape of waiting for a baby, to the moment of welcoming a wonderfully made little girl to the Grant family, and into the experience of watching that daughter grow alongside them. The author movingly describes the range of emotions that she, her husband, and three young children experienced in the waiting. And she tells of some of the ideas and steps that they used in the adoption process and as parents of a "conspicuous family."

I found Love You More to be both a captivating and informative read. Grant well tells the tale of the emotional rollercoaster of the adoption process, and how faith, friends, and the everyday responsibilities that come in loving and caring for her biological children grounded her during that time. I especially read with interest how the story proceeds after the long-awaited little girl arrives home, and how the Grant family so very intentionally speaks with openness about adoption as a gift to their family while acknowledging the sacrifice of the biological mother.

I have the profound blessing of knowing "conspicuous families," and I found Love You More to ring true to their stories. I am eager to pass this book on to a friend in the beginning of the adoption process, and I will enthusiastically recommend it to others wanting to learn more about adoption.

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2 comments:

Julie said...

So excited to read this book, especially in dreaming of one day becoming a "conspicuous family" ourselves.

keri said...

Really enjoyed this book as well, even though I'm not an adoptive parent. She had great insights on what it means to be a family--and it's so well written it was fun just to read her story. One thing the author writes about is creating a "lifebook" for her adopted daughter, which told the story of how she came from Guatemala to their family. I think other families might want to do the same thing, so I put up an article on wikihow that tells how to do it. Here's the link: http://www.wikihow.com/Create-a-Scrapbook-for-an-Adopted-Child
I highly recommend this book.